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analoguechildSometimes it feels like I'm never going to find the spot that I fit in with people here.
A girl I find pretty cool, who is a new hire where I work, implied that I am very conservative. This baffles me. Now she doesn't know me very well, at all really, and she herself seems to me to be very liberal because she has a full sleeve tattoo and a nose piercing and... I don't know, just the way she talks about things sometimes. But when I was telling her of my roommate/apartment hunting woes she said something along the lines of having me room with her sister, that she thinks we'd get along well because her sister is very studious, conservative and hey she loves cats too!
I'm probably over psychoanalyzing this one sentence. But it's just bugging me. And of course, being me and not wanting to rock the boat on anything whatsoever, I just nod my head when she asks me if she should see if her sister is in need of a roommate. Well I do want a roommate & want to move out of my parents house fairly soon. My brother is going to be moving back in with mom and dad too, come the end of July and it's going to be quite the full house here. And I can totally live with someone who is conservative for a year but what if I want to have my gay and lesbian friends over?
I'm afraid that if I do live with someone very conservative I'd get by but they'd end up pissing me off one way or another and I'd be suffering my pissed off-ness in silence because I don't seem to speak up for myself very well.
So I am going to edit the things I'd like to have in a roommate(s): Must like cats and definitely not be allergic to them & must be open minded? Must be ok with Teh Gay Ppls? Must not force me to adhere to their political and religious beliefs? Must not mind, if given advance notice of course, boys & lesbian women staying over on the couch or otherwise? :/ Something along those lines perhaps.
A girl I find pretty cool, who is a new hire where I work, implied that I am very conservative. This baffles me. Now she doesn't know me very well, at all really, and she herself seems to me to be very liberal because she has a full sleeve tattoo and a nose piercing and... I don't know, just the way she talks about things sometimes. But when I was telling her of my roommate/apartment hunting woes she said something along the lines of having me room with her sister, that she thinks we'd get along well because her sister is very studious, conservative and hey she loves cats too!
I'm probably over psychoanalyzing this one sentence. But it's just bugging me. And of course, being me and not wanting to rock the boat on anything whatsoever, I just nod my head when she asks me if she should see if her sister is in need of a roommate. Well I do want a roommate & want to move out of my parents house fairly soon. My brother is going to be moving back in with mom and dad too, come the end of July and it's going to be quite the full house here. And I can totally live with someone who is conservative for a year but what if I want to have my gay and lesbian friends over?
I'm afraid that if I do live with someone very conservative I'd get by but they'd end up pissing me off one way or another and I'd be suffering my pissed off-ness in silence because I don't seem to speak up for myself very well.
So I am going to edit the things I'd like to have in a roommate(s): Must like cats and definitely not be allergic to them & must be open minded? Must be ok with Teh Gay Ppls? Must not force me to adhere to their political and religious beliefs? Must not mind, if given advance notice of course, boys & lesbian women staying over on the couch or otherwise? :/ Something along those lines perhaps.
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Date: 2011-06-13 11:26 am (UTC)Make sure that you ask her sister about that, though. It woudl really suck to live someplace for a year where you're constantly upset about things. And I know that some people are very conservative but okay (or at least tolerant) with gay people, so maybe that aspect wouldn't be so bad. (Example: there was a guy in my lab who was very conservative re: guns and marijuana, government, but was pro choice and pro gay rights.)